Legacy Work

Zeke overheard Steve & I calmly disagreeing about something and said, “I don’t like it when you guys fight!”

We both looked at him and said we weren’t fighting, just disagreeing about something.
And then it hit me… the fact that he thought that was a fight?
That’s because he has never seen us fight or be mean to each other.
He has never seen yelling, cruelty, or cold shoulders between us.
He sees love.
He sees peace.
He sees two people working through life together.
That’s not just cute… that’s healing! That’s legacy work. 💛
I’m so thankful for what he sees. I want him to know that you can have a marriage without all the drama. When you disagree or are upset, you just work it out. You listen to each other. You grow together. You’re a team!
Obviously, we have fought before and seen some dark days like anyone else, but it is incredibly rare and certainly not something we broadcast in front of our kids. We discuss with them how to treat others and how to handle conflict. ❤️ 🕊️




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